A topic that is very relevant and receiving a lot of press currently, is combating stress and anxiety. This comes from a variety of issues but one area is obviously of particular interest. Your wedding. How can you stress bust your way to a perfect wedding?
I am always mildly amused when I hear from my brides after the big day and they say that they are so relieved that ‘it’s all over’. Many, in fact most of them, say to me “it’s so nice to have my weekends back and get my life back to normal!!! What’s that all about? Well it’s because planning a wedding, no matter where or how big or small, can be, and is, rather stressful. It’s such a shame as it doesn’t have to be. So why is it?
You can imagine, in over 20 years of working in the bridal industry, I have spoken to literally thousands of brides (yes, I did say thousands, and lots of grooms too) and have gained a massive amount of perspective all based on their stories and their experiences. It really saddens me when I hear them relay their tales and hear about some of the anxiety they have gone through. I’ve been witness to a few tears and tantrums in my time as project “for better or for worse” can take a wrong turn. The main issues tend to be around time restraints. Too much to do and so little time. The whole wedding journey puts a strain on your time, your finances and ultimately your relationship (if you’re not careful) which kind of defeats the object right?
Over the years my customers have told me how they have found it incredibly hard to juggle all the arrangements whilst managing the cost of the whole shebang and finding time for each other. On top of that, how many couples do you think are doing their best to get into shape just for the occasion?
How many times have you heard someone say, ‘it’s just one day’? Well, yes, it is just one day but in actual fact the planning should form part of your overall wedding experience, shouldn’t it? Making every moment special and creating lasting memories. Happy ones??
How do you plan the “perfect” wedding and minimise the stress and all that comes with it?
Now let’s focus on the positive and how easy it is to avoid all this negativity. You will be pleased to know that there is a way of combating the potential stress, making time for each other and getting into shape. Happy and healthy, that’s the aim.
When you start making a list of things to do for your wedding, make sure that at the very top of that list you write: PRIORITY #1 – Date night/Date day, eat together (healthily), exercise, social time.
If you do this then you will balance out the more stressful stuff as you will undoubtedly feel more empowered to deal with it.
Talk about your concerns with each other and any of the wedding vendors that are helping to make your day special. Don’t keep it all bottled up. When a problem or potential problem arises, tackle it head on and do it together. You should expect great customer service from each of the vendors hired to make your day amazing. Set the bench mark high and communicate this from the very start. Be realistic in your goals but also make it clear what you would like and how you would like it.
If you can exercise together then what better way to blow of some steam and spend quality time together and at the same time getting into shape both physically and mentally for the big day.
Togetherness. That’s the key.
Take a deep breath. This is your wedding and IT WILL BE AMAZING!!!